I just got a text from my school friend, saying “ gals it’s my Roka(Engagement) on 29th of this month… you all have to come.” Hundreds of messages followed after the big news.
The inactive members also congratulated her and wanted to know who “the” guy was?? She shared the picture and we all recognized her high school sweetheart. The to be bride couldn’t stop gushing about her Love 💘. Kisses and hugs. The proposal and the insane lover boy attitude. How he takes care of her crazily. Showers expensive gifts on her.
She told us that he loves her so much that little things like her undone nails also bother him, how she opens her hair and always gets the perfect nail art done because he likes it. Her endless stories made me wonder, have I grown up too fast ??
I mean I have totally given up on my relationship, rather on myself when it comes to getting dressed. I got married when I was 18 and now after 12 years, these mushy stories sound so stupid to me. I mean my husband likes it when I open my hair but helloooo it’s hot and stupid to open hair and roam around in the house. Imagine when you’re 3 years old wants to stay in your arms all day and your open tangled hair keeps falling on her face!!
I understand that I might sound lame to some of you. Some of you love getting dressed, not to please anyone but for your own happiness. But we all are not the same. I am somebody who gets dressed once in a blue moon( whenever I want to) and pajamaz are my style statement. Hearing love stories of my friends makes mewonder whether it is always men who are responsiblefor the constant fights after marriage ??
Certainly not, then what makes it all change after marriage? Why is it not important for him to get flowers for her ? And why is she not excited to see him in the evening??
The enthusiasm dies and we start taking things for granted and major changes come in a relationship when you have your first child.
Your priorities start changing majorly after a kid. The focus, the attention totally gets diverted towards the kid. But one thing that should not change is respect for each other. Our partner should be our friend, who loves to fight but can’t see us sad.
P.S. let’s play Tom and Jerry with our life partner for life😉
What do you guys think??
I loved this article 🙂 although the things in my life didnt change much before or after marriage.. never got so much pampering before or after.. but definitely after baby, priorities change 🙂
yes first Marriage and then kids bring lots of changes in our lives and our priorities also get changed with pressure of multiple responsibilities. but when we accept this change with a positive outlook then life become a beautiful journey.
Usually people say, the honeymoon period is over once a couple have their first child. But honeymoon period is not just about expressing love every other moment, or having a candle light dinner with do not disturb sign. It is also about spending quality time together, understanding each other. Life does change after kids but that should never stop any couple from spending time with each other. I would say, thats the time when we understand the “us time” the most.
Things definitely change after kids. You cannot be spontaneous a out anything anymore and priorities change. But keeping the zeal alive is upto us and finding new ways to do that.
You think so different and so good and that what makes your content so touching to heart. I appreciate the way you present the truth of life and I wish to read more of your posts
Personally, I feel you get bogged down by all the chores after marriage. It’s kike a lot of responsibility and it seems to become the priority to take care of the bills rather than emotions. But I guess the individual must work on making emotions too a priority to keep the romance alive.
Mine became better after marriage. When we got married everyone thought that we would not go long way but later we figured each other’s life.
Change is the only constant and this is true of relationships too. Marriage is a long-term relationship, and its dynamics change with time. It cannot be a perpetual honeymoon, and life changes, especially after the arrival of a child.
The last line has my heart. We are truly in a never-ending game of Tom & Jerry with our life partners. Lovely thoughts.
I enjoyed reading this post. I loved the way you have expressed everything so clearly and agree with most of your points. And you are absolutely right that respect for each other should always be there.
The relationship usually changes after having a kid. Bit I’d suggest not to let the spark go away. Try to have the couple time
That’s so different and so good and that what makes your content so touching to heart. I appreciate the way you present the truth of life. Great thoughts.
After marriage, there would definitely feel more relaxed with your partner for life. You’ll seem to read each others mind all the time and grow to learn the goods and the bad of each other which you’ll also eventually learn to accept and just live with.
Nice post 👍. Totally agree that priorities changes but love stays forever. Love can fade behind responsibilities and never lost