My happy rule book.

My happy rule book is my magic mantra to stay happy.

Before I start telling you the points that I keep in mind to stay happy, I would like you to know that I have my set of problems too.

I have a broken heart, have cried, have seen people change(not for good) I have seen pressure at work and I have faced financial issues too.

We all have been through obstacles in life and that’s okay because we humans have a tendency to learn from our mistakes.

My rule book has no magic wand that can make you happy by making life simpler. But there surely are ways which can change our way of looking at stuff.

Let me share a few examples with you :

Detach yourself from issues you can’t do anything about.  

If there is an earthquake in some other part of the world. And you constantly keep consuming the news, it’s not going to help anyone. Either you get up and try and help or you just stop listening to the news all day. Because by listening to the news and not doing anything about it, you are wasting your time, energy, and your mental peace too.

 I am not saying don’t acknowledge yourself about what’s happening around you. All I am saying is either do something about it or just stop thinking about it.

Detach yourself from people who give you negative vibes, even if it’s family. 

People who constantly make you feel unhappy or helpless or think less of you can never help you grow. 

For example, that relative who is never tired of talking about their happy life. Or the one who talks in a way that makes you feel less of yourself. Such people can make you uncomfortable with your present situation. There is one simple way to deal with such people, ignore.

Remember, no one can talk alone. Unless it’s a radio show. If you won’t talk to them, they won’t be able to hurt you. And by ignoring them you are not running from the situation but just trying to maintain peace.

Always stick to the things that make you happy.

If your work doesn’t give you the zeal to get up and work, find something that does.I understand that your 9 to 5 job is important. You earn your bread and butter from it. But try and spend at least 1 to 2 hours in a day on something that you love. It might not give you the cash to support your family (initially!! Who knows if you become the next Ed Sheeran)? but it will surely give you peace at heart.  

We often ignore the value of me-time but that’s what gives us a feeling of contentment.

Stop being a people’s pleaser.

So, let’s accept the fact, you are not God so you can’t make everyone happy. (well, people are not happy with God also and that’s another discussion)

People around you might have a lot of expectations from you. Your boss might think that you are not working enough, your team members might think that your ideas have no value or your darling partner might think that you are not giving them enough time but you obviously are trying to make everyone happy which is clearly not easy. You can’t move your magic wand and make everyone happy. But you can make yourself happy by just ignoring the demands and expectations of a few people and doing what exactly your heart wants. 

Don’t be mean to anyone but pleasing everyone is also not a part of your job description.

Stop stressing about other peoples problems.

I usually see that people get upset when their near ones are doing something wrong. It breaks their heart but the fact is that you can only warn them but you cannot control anyone’s life. Like one of my friends is always worried about her teenage son and his company. Which I completely understand but there are times when she feels that her son is a kid and that people might take advantage of his innocence. Because she feels he cannot see the difference between good or bad.

I always tell my friend that you can only give good values to your kid. Tell him how you feel about a situation. But lecturing, shouting, or getting worried about anything will not solve the issue. We make mistakes and we learn. That’s how life is! Some smartasses learn it from other’s mistakes but generally, all of us like to take a dip in the pool to check the temperature of water in the mountains.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

I want to say it again, stop feeling sorry for yourself!!

You are not the only one who has a messed-up life. There are tons of people going through obstacles in life. 

If you feel you can do something about your problems, then just do it. And if you can’t do anything about it then stop feeling sorry about it. 

 See I understand it’ easier said than done but I also believe that if you don’t stop feeling sorry for your current state, you can’t bring in change. 

Try and look at the positives

If you don’t have enough to feed your family, work for it. And be thankful that at least you have a family!!

If you feel your boss is being unfair to you, try and look for another job and meanwhile just concentrate on the cheque that he gives you.

If you feel no one loves you then visit a foster home with candies and what you will receive will be pure bliss.

I can go on with it but I feel you have got the point. 

P.S. If you need any help, I would be just a mail away.❤  acingmomlife@gmail.com

Not a certified professional but proudly abide by my happy rule book. Learnt from the lessons of my life.

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