This ones dedicated to all the beautiful people who spoiled my mood and made me wonder, WHY GOD!? WHY!?? Well, we all have toxic people in our lives. Some of us are blessed with just one fool in our lives, others might have many fools to deal with. It can be your annoying aunt or neighbor. Or your boss. Or your spouse or can be your child or parents too.
You might be having a wonderful day and boom !! They do something wrong and you lose your cool.
Difficult. Isn’t it?
We always end up thinking less of them or start wondering why can’t they have little sense. (It would have been great if we could give a little wisdom to them. Which we think we have a lot.)
Some of us are blessed to be living a little far from the foolish souls. But many of us might be dealing with them on a daily basis.
How we wish to take a magic wand and vanish them from our lives. But sadly it’s not a fairy tale that we are living in. Magic can only happen within us.
Let me share a few points which can help you deal with toxic people or situations around you.
1. It’s about You.
It’s about your happiness, your goals, and your ambitions. It is all just about you. And its no necessary for everyone to like you. You are an individual soul. you think in a certain way and no one can think like you. Accept it. Their behaviour should not result in increasing your anxiety levels.
Say for example, When you are in a good mood and your mother-in-law or your boss comes and says something to you which spoils your mood. What do you do? Explaining your point of view can be difficult in such cases.
Here it’s important to realize that you can’t change anyone. They are who they are. You can’t change their behavior or way of talking. And it should not impact you. If someone’s behavior impacts you, you need to heal yourself. Changing everyone is not practical.
If you change one person, you might come across another fool.
Remember, ignorance is bliss.
2. Toxic people don’t realize that it can not always be their way.
Now we all want everything our way. For example, it’s so annoying when someone changes the place of sugar in your kitchen. Or when you want your kid to wear a good dress for a party and the kid starts crying because he wants to wear the old superhero T-shirt. The time when you really want to watch a movie peacefully but just then your husband wants to watch the news. Can’t break the television or cancel going to the party.(breaking his head is not an option either)
What do you do? You crib, cry and feel angry. In some cases, you adjust too. But next time when a situation like this appears keep your ego aside and concentrate on something positive around.
Ask where the sugar is. It’s not a biggie. Not big enough to spoil your mood for the day.
Let your kid wear what he likes. What people think is not important. Your kid’s happiness is important.
Try listening to music when everything seems to be going wrong. Music always lifts spirits. There are many people in this world and everyone has their thought process.
Many thoughts and actions are going on around us and everything cannot be pleasing. It’s your wish, to take it to your heart or not.
3. Take in what you like
Everyone has an opinion. They can say what they like. And do what pleases them. When someone around us talks rudely to us. We just can’t take it. We immediately want to react back louder. But what good does that serve us? Increased blood pressure level can’t be good in any way!
People around cannot always have a pleasing way of talking. Not all can be polite. Not necessary for everyone to like us either. If we accept this, half of our battles will be won.
Remember the time when your boss spoke rudely to you? You immediately felt like resigning. But then cheques needed to be cashed so you gulped it in.
Such mood spoilers need to be dealt with calmly. Hear what they say and accept only what you like. Don’t let their harsh words or acts reach your heart.
4. Toxic people are going through a battle in their world.
When you are in a pleasant mood, you can’t hurt anyone. Can you imagine shouting at your kid while dancing? No, you can’t.
When someone says something rude to you, it’s their vibration. Toxic people abuse because that’s what they know. Anger, resentment, abusing or hatred are their ways of venting out their frustration.
Next time when someone is rude to you, rather than being annoyed, try and consider them to be sick.
A healthy happy person can never hurt anyone.
5. How reactive are you?
Now, this is the decider.
Every action has a reaction. Science says it too. We humans practice it knowingly and unknowingly. When someone annoys us, we immediately react negatively. We shout, we answer back and we don’t stop it there.
We take it further by cursing that person in our mind. Instead of thinking about our life, we invest all our energy to curse that person.
What a dumb fellow ! How dare he say that to me? Next time I will also say something which hurts him more.
Familiar. Right!?
We say stuff which that toxic people cannot even hear and are least affected by. The only person who is taking in the negative vibrations is us. Consider them foolish. Be the smart one and move on. Your reaction will only add fuel to your problems.
It is also said that cursing or cribbing or bitching affects us mentally and physically. When you curse them you spoil your health. If you don’t like them but keep thinking about them. You are giving them the attention which they don’t deserve.
Learned from my experiences.
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Very useful suggestions 🙂