Daughter-in-law and Daughter!

The girl who marries your son becomes your daughter-in-law, which means that the law certifies her to be treated like your daughter. But sadly we often see that legal formalities in such cases are are fulfilled before the hearts meet. Every girl is the princess of her house and when she gets married,and becomes someones daughter-in-law, she certainly doesn’t want her new family members to treat her like a princess but just like a normal human. 

I have often seen that the people from the guy’s side, somehow presume that their daughter-in-law has some superpowers. Not the superpowers like spider man but a superpower to control their son and everything weird happening in the house.

I am serious and I am pretty sure you will agree with me.

This article is dedicated from every “new age” woman to her in-laws and to her husband. And to all the society aunties who clearly have been understanding women wrong.

Five things that you must know about your daughter in law

No Daughter-in-law gets married to take over someone’s house 

It’s not the elections and your daughter in law is not from the opposition party. It’s as simple as that.

I want everyone from the guys’ side to know that No daughter in law considers her marriage as a battle where she enters with a mind-frame to bully or belittle the other members of her new family.

When a girl gets married, she is just looking in for the most romantic moments of her life with her husband and absolutely not about how she will want to rule the house.  

So please continue all the household chores and duties that you have been doing. We are not here to take over the kitchen or the house.

Your daughter-in-law is not teaching your son

It’s a very common misconception that whatever the guy does (all the wrongs) after his wedding, it is all taught to him by his wife. 

To all the silly people who think like that, I want you all to know that the reason behind your son’s wrong decisions is his stupidity and not his wife.

Now come on, I am not being rude. I am just being real here! 

For instance, if the guy is not social enough to meet and greet his side of the relatives, it’s plainly his choice and not because his wife told him so.

(Most of the men are adamant about what they want to do and find it difficult to bend down their ego to take someone’s suggestion.) Though that’s a different story altogether.

 No wife sits there by her husband’s ears and tells him to make all the wrong decisions. 

Don’t judge your Daughter-in-laws sanskars by the length of my skirt.

If she is decked up in an Indian wear, she has been given good values. This is the most ridiculous thing to say/hear.

In our society, if the guy wears shorts, it’s perfectly normal. Obviously, because the weather is hot and he must feel comfortable, at least at home. But when the daughter-in-law decides to wear shorts, the people in the house start moral policing her. 

“It’s too revealing. She just doesn’t have manners.”

To all the non-gutsy stupid people out there, I want you to know that women are strong but they do feel hot and it feels hotter when we women have to gulp in so much lecturing from people who we clearly don’t want any Gyan from!

A woman’s sense of style doesn’t say that she doesn’t respect her elders or that she is incapable of taking responsibility.

A Daughter-in-laws work is equally important and tiring.

In families where both husband and wife are working, it’s a good thing that husband’s work and his schedule are given importance.  But so should be the case with the wife.

There are some families who still expect their daughters-in-law to go to the office and ace all household chores too. I want to ask these people that if you don’t expect your son to come and cook after office, then why expect it from your daughter-in-law? 

She is equally human too, please consider that before implying your expectations.

Daughter-in-laws parents are not teaching her ill about you.

All parents wish the best for their kids, irrespective of the gender.

When a girl gets married and moves out of her house, it doesn’t mean that her parents are now less important in her life. We love and respect our parents probably more after the wedding because we miss them so much.

Speaking to them or meeting our parents doesn’t mean that they are teaching us ill about you.

Irrespective of our gender or age, in our highs or lows, we wish to be heard, it’s human psychology. And that’s what women do on long phone calls with their family and friends.

For all those people who are dealing with toxic people around them,do read my article Toxic People,

P.S. I don’t believe that any girl has the right to disrespect her in-laws or anyone. If we want our parents to be respected, we must respect our in-laws too. 

This article is dedicated to all the people who lack empathy towards women.

For those of you who still have difficulties, can contact my mother-in-law. My mother_in_law can teach you to love your daughter-in-law more than your son. Or watch Satguru’s take on it.