The true definition of a relationship
A relationship is a connection we share with a particular person. And no matter how badly we fail in a relationship it doesn’t make us a bad human.
Relationships are the bonds that we share with people around us. And the quality of relationships depends on time, understanding, and the experiences we share with a particular person.
The instant connection
We sometimes feel immediately connected to a person and there is just this instant connection. Everything seems to be going just perfectly.
Do you know why sometimes we connect so well with some people?
Relationships that we share with the people with similar mentality feel the instant connection and are much stronger. It’s simple, if two people think alike they will obviously build a stronger relationship. It can be your siblings, your friend or even the stranger you met on the airplane.
A good relationship
Relationships that are based on mutual understanding and love are good relationships and last longer too. These are the two basic pillars that we generally categorise a good relationship on. But experts have categorised relationships into five main aspects of a healthy relationship . That are as follows:
Finding common interests.
Couples with similar interests love to do things together and would obviously have a stronger bond. Say for example me and my husband love to watch movies together and that’s something we both enjoy doing together. It can be cooking, traveling, cleaning or anything for you. The thought is to have at least one common thing which both people in a relationship can enjoy doing together.
Relationships that are emotionally connected.
Relationships that are emotionally connected are the ones where you understand the highs and lows of each other. The two people in the relationship should be able to comfort each other.
We humans have a lot of emotions. Happiness, sadness, depression. It doesn’t matter what your partner feels, the basic thought is to acknowledge that feeling and comfort your partner.
Importance of SEX in a relationship
Sex is very important top maintain a healthy relatonship. It has been proven time and again how sex acts as a stress buster. But when in a relationship it is also very important for you to know and respect your partner’s needs and desires. The fire, the spark that holds you together during the relationship has to be a two way traffic.
Sex cannot be enjoyed when love doesnt exist in a relationship.
Speaking your mind in the relationship
When in a relationship it is very important to be able to share what’s on your mind freely.
Politics ,economy,thoughts about people around you or even work issues. The topic of discussion can be anything but you should be able to have a common ground to talk on.
You may find one or two aspects missing in your relationship and that my friend can be the reason behind those everyday fights.
Do watch the video the three requirements of a good relationship which will enlighten you more on relationships.
Relationships blossom with love but sometimes fail too.
Failing relationships
Relationships fail too. It’s common. We all have seen divorces, two friends fighting and parents failing to understand their own kids too.
Difference of opinion, ununderstandable circumstances can be blamed in such situations.
I would like you to understand here that no person is bad, we just come across different people.
A person can have ten great relationships but still fail to connect with his twin ! Possible, right? And it doesn’t make any of them a bad person. They are just two different people.
Why do relationships fail?
For any relationship to fail I feel the basic reason is expectations. When we see someone failing to do what we expected, we feel heartbroken and then react in a way that reflects on how we actually feel.
Have you ever witnessed someone shouting on the road or in the store and felt sad about their behaviour? No, right!
It’s because we don’t have any expectations from that stranger.
But when we see our spouse, our parents, or even our child acting not up to our expectations, we immediately jump in to explain or in some cases just jump on to the conclusion.
“He is so ill-mannered. She is always rude.”
I am sure you can recall yourself saying these words.
Why does that happen? Why do the most precious relationships sometimes become difficult to handle?
Relationships are about listening and understanding
When in a relationship it’s important not just to hear your partner but to understand them too I feel it’s because we don’t listen to understand.
9/10 when in a conversation, we conclude before the conversation starts. We are more interested in being “right” than understanding.
Remember the last time you and your husband fought and you somehow already knew how it would end. What will he/she react like? And you are so ready with your next reaction. The point is never about listening but just about being proven correct.
We fucking have our own courtroom at home where we are the judges and advocates of our everyday battles.
The quality of our relationship depends on how effectively we hear and understand the our partner.
Relationships are about respect
No matter how big or small you are at your workplace. You must learn to respect people around you.
People who work with you at the office or your family members. Everyone has the right to be treated with respect
. You must respect and acknowledge what work your partner does. It’s very important for your partner to know that you respect their views and feelings.
Relationships are about equality.
Man or woman. Tall or short. Rich or poor. Your relationship cannot be compatible if you think your partner is less/more than you in any field.
Comparisons often give birth to insecurities and lead to broken hearts and marriages.
A sad/ depressed person is more likely to have poor relationships. To be able to understand such people better read toxic people.
Do share your views. What do you think makes or brakes a relationship.
P.S. If you feel that you are going through a rough patch in your relationship please feel free to contact me. I am just an email away.
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Thank you for reading.
Relationships – a word which can be very soothing when we need the comfort and assurance that we have someone very close to count on. But it can be very twisted when we are not able to handle it. It has to be handle with care.
“The point is never about listening but just about being proven correct.”- this is so very true. Most of the arguments happen because we get in a defensive state and we start making stories.
To make any relationship sweet and strong, we have to understand its boundaries, we have to understand ourself, our expectations from it.
Nice read buddy. All the pointers were very relevant & true .Thanks for this lovely article.
I can talk about my relationships …. be it with my husband, my friends, my parents, my in laws and even my neighbourhood kids. I never make an idea about anyone without knowing anyone. I respect and give time to other to respond so end of the day what comes back to me is a new relationship. Regarding love relations…. some 6th sense triggers our mind that he/she can be mine.
You really made some important points here and I can relate with them very well. I have seen relationships failing and flourishing,both. I believe that understanding is the most important thing one should have.
this i such a beautiful an thoughtful compilation. From my relationship I have understood few pointers in which communication plays a important role. We need to be a giver and over expectation does kill
I don’t say much about relationships but I think it’s all about Understanding each other and supporting each other. Lifting up, motivating your partner is the best part of relationship. Thank you for this post!
Relationships are so important in our life and we just need to figure out the ones that give us happiness or grief. We need to choose ones that are good for us. No point in being the ones that make your life sour and bad. Loved this detailed post on relationships.
Relationship needs a person to be open-minded and know who they really are and their values. It’s not only a commitment but a partnership as well where you’ll learn a lot about yourself and your partner. It takes a lot of patience and time to develop that skill where you truly understand another person completely. While it is important and great to like common things, it’s also interesting if there’s something different and new that each of you could share with one another.
Well written article. Any Relationship should be shared with mutual understanding. The one important thing that is needed in a relationship is to give space to each other. And lack of communication is one of the worst things to destroy any relationship
Understanding and trust is most important aspects of any relationship and love ofcourse. I like your points .
Well writing….. Relationship needs share any problem . This is very nice information. And truly. Thank you so much for sharing😊😊😊😊
For me if your relationship with your partner, parents, in laws are ok you will be mentally fine for the day … Giving respect and personal space is very important in a relationship. Yes, conflict between husband and wife is normal. We need to know how to avoid those conflict or handle those maturely.. brilliant post.
Loved the detailed article. You have covered every aspect of a relationship in here. Must read for everyone out there 👍