Divorce is made in Heaven.

Divorces are made in heaven just like marriages. If anything gives you peace, it does give you the feels of heaven, even if it’s divorce. When two people can’t grow together in life, it is necessary for them to part ways. It is any day better than to stay in a toxic relationship. It’s pretty simple logic but sadly the society doesn’t allow it to be so simple.

If you are in an unhappy relationship, no one is bothered about how you feel. But if you are divorced, you surely are going to become a topic of discussion for society.

We live in the 21st century, yet even today, divorce is a topic of social taboo. Especially if you are a woman.

Judgemental Society

Once divorced you have to be prepared to be tagged as someone who is high-headed, stubborn, irrespective of others’ feelings, and a woman who doesn’t know how to adjust in her house. 

Probably that’s the reason why  women feel the need to adjust more than they “can” because many women fear “what will people say?!”

True Divorce story

One of my close friends recently got divorced. Her in-laws and husband were good rich modern people but they were just not ready to accept a daughter-in-law who considered her career more important than their family drama.

My friend was expected to  prepare a 3 chores meal, go to the office and then come back and attend social gatherings (for which she had no energy.)

She kept quiet and tried to be who she was not, only until she realized that no one in her new house was there to understand her emotions or health. Not even her husband.

One fine day, she packed her bags after a huge family drama and decided to never look back.

Sometimes the man of dreams should remain in dreams. Thanks! But No Thanks cupid!

Packing bags and leaving her messy life was a difficult decision that she took, but the difficulty didn’t end there. 

Dealing with the tag of being  “Divorced”

 Family and friends were supportive(at least they pretended to), but she had to deal with the tag of being a “divorced single woman.”

Not that people were planning to pay her bills but she was always judged for whatever she did.

Something as normal as going out for dinner also became the talk of the town for a divorced woman. 

*The law allows divorce but it does not support abuse and so nor should we.

*Every individual has the right to live a life of their choice. Irrespective of caste, gender, or financial status. 

*An unhappy person can never have a happy relationship. So, what’s the point of staying in one?

*Crying, cribbing, or crushing down your happiness to keep someone else happy is not a wise way to live life. 

*Women need to be more empathetic towards other women’s misery. Trying to find joy in someone’s problems is unforgivable and incomprehensible.

Divorce doesn’t say that you are a bad person

Divorce doesn’t turn a person into an evil human.

Every individual is different. We have different needs, nature, and lifestyles. We don’t necessarily need to get along with everyone we meet. 

A happy man and woman are the pillars of a happy married life. If even one of them feels that they are not comfortable in their relationship, they completely have the right to end the relationship. 

 And we must know that it is OKAY if you don’t find your Mr. Right or Mrs. Right.

It doesn’t matter if you are rich or poor, a celebrity or a layman. If you are divorced people will presume that there is certainly something wrong with you. But it is also necessary for you to know that if you are divorced, you are stronger, wiser than the nasty judgemental society.

My opinion about divorce

In my opinion, if you feel your relationship doesn’t allow you to grow in mental peace and if you decide to go in for divorce, do it with dignity. Do not allow anyone to pull you down or say that you are any less of a person or woman.

We have often seen people talking about divorce as something abnormal. And Ironically I see the same people complain about marital abuse. Funny! right? Rather people assume that women are the only reason for a relationship to break. “She” couldn’t keep him happy.

Every individual has their respected personal life and we don’t know anything about their problems. This also means that we don’t have the right to comment on their choices in life.

Personally, women who stand up for themselves should be respected more because they did what was correct for them and had the guts to stand for their rights.

 Fun facts about divorce

*Being divorced doesn’t mean that a woman can’t be happy.

*A divorced woman has the right to laugh and dance, just like any other woman.

*Dressing up has nothing to do with a woman’s marital status.

*A divorced mom can take care of her kids and doesn’t want your pity. 

* People have no right to ask personal questions publically. No one has the right to interrogate a divorced person.

*Divorce is normal, Abuse is not.

*Married to a man who earns enough doesn’t mean that you have found a perfect match and you are a happy wife.

*A big house, money, jewelry, or anything materialistic can’t define the state of your married life.

* Mental stress is worse than physical pressure.

* Being divorced doesn’t mean that a woman is approachable so don’t letch over divorced women.

• You have one life live it to the fullest.

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P.S.

I empathize with all the women who have been bashed by society and honestly feel that no one should judge anyone’s problems.  I stand by one and all with all respect in my heart.

If you ever feel lost, I will be just a mail away.

Learner for life! #believeinitanditwillhappen #divorce

People fear women who know how to voice their opinion and aren’t afraid to own their sexuality.