How to manage feelings?
To manage your feelings of discomfort, you must remember that feelings don’t rely on facts. Feelings are temporary.
One day when we are appreciated and we get what we want, we feel happy and accomplished. Whereas, the day when we face rejection, we feel disheartened. Feelings rely on our day-to-day experiences. While some feelings help us to grow and succeed in life, there are unhelpful feelings too, that become a hurdle in our life.
Unhelpful feelings/beliefs
Unhelpful feelings are born within us and are mostly false.
People mostly don’t have a problem with where they are in life but what they feel at the moment. Let me share a few unhelpful beliefs to make it clearer.
Some unhelpful feelings
*I must do well and be approved by everyone.
*Everyone must treat me nicely.
*Life should be easy and smooth or else I can’t be happy.
- My past was crucial and it dictates everything I do today.
*Everyone is judging me.
*No one will listen to what I say.
*Opinions matter
I am sure that you must have been through these feelings. Or maybe you are still struggling to cope up with one of these feelings!
If you realize/accept that you are going through an unhelpful feeling, then my friend you are one step towards getting rid of such feelings. Why do I say so?
How important is it to accept your flaws?
To manage the feelings of discomfort, it is essential to accept who you are in life. It is the biggest solution to your problems. No healer or counselor can help a person who doesn’t accept his/her problems. Heard of the common saying, “God helps those who help themselves.” which perfectly applies to people who don’t accept themselves.
Being flawed and imperfect is normal.
Now the question arises that if we have accepted that we are going through unhelpful feelings, How do we overcome our feelings? How do we kill our unhelpful feelings?
How to kill unhelpful feelings
Let me start by telling you that unhelpful feelings are normal. It is perfectly okay to feel anxious, sad, or cranky. These are all feelings that come and go but if these feelings act as a hindrance in your growth, it is important to understand the reason behind your feelings. To kill unhelpful feelings we need to simply ask ourselves a few questions. The question that gives us a clearer picture of what the core of our feeling is.
Start by asking yourself:
What is the feeling of discomfort based on?
Feelings are 9/10 based on assumptions. We tend to feel that we are unloved, unworthy or underconfident. But that is not the fact. It is just how we feel.
Next time when you encounter your unhelpful feeling, ask yourself, What are the feelings based on? What is the truth behind it? Is it true or just something that you are assuming?
For example, A person who has been body-shamed can feel underconfident about how he/she looks and can decide to ditch all the social gatherings, to stay isolated at home.
To people going through such feelings, I want to ask, do you feel you are imperfect, or is it something someone told you?
If someone told you so then, How important is “this” person in your life?
Have your feelings of discomfort been helpful?
Have your feelings been helpful for you in any way? I mean has been underconfident or thinking less of yourself helped you to succeed?
For example, has not gone out of the house or shying away from who you are, helped you to lose weight?
It has not been helpful, right!? Then why are taking the burden to be perfect?
What if you follow your heart?
What if you follow your heart to manage your feelings of discomfort? The day you stop bothering about what people say and start doing what your heart says, you will start leading a fulfilled life.
People are still going to be judgemental but when you follow your heart you will feel happy. You will feel fulfilled.
So, go out there wear what you want to. Say no to anyone who comes between you and your happiness and be unapologetically YOU.
Read My happy rule book to get a clearer vision to follow your heart.
Conclusion:
No one has a perfect life but we all must learn to make it perfect. And realize the importance to kill the feelings before they kill us.
That’s Avery important topic. We need to learn to handle our feeling of discomfort and for that first step is to know the root cause.
This article is perfectly on time. I am suffering from some discomfort at my new workplace as I feel left out in everything. This article helped me in realising that maybe I need some more time to understand things and work on myself.
This is such an important topic. We need to learn to handle our emotions or feelings. In my opinion, Share your feelings with the people closest to you. Don’t keep it to yourself and end in depression.
A very helpful post for people for whom it is hard to manage their feelings. I was a very different person earlier but with time I changed. And I am glad of these changes in me
This one is a very helpful post for people like me who constantly struggles with their mental health. Hope to see more beautiful articles like this in future.
Feelings what I found is a complicated thing. why am saying so because what one feels about one one things is completely different from the one other’s feel. But at least we can control what we feel. Thanks for this lovely post
One needs to accept oneself with all the inherent flaws, and desist comparing with others. Otherwise, there is no end to the discomfort. A positive approach is the starting point to erase feelings of discomfort.
Yes feelings are powerful and they have a strong impact on our mental health. it is important that we learn to manage our emotions and feelings properly and positively. specially, during this pandemic time, it is crucial aspect for our mental health that should not be ignored.
Understanding our feelings, naming them, and accepting them is so important. I usually introspect and this helps me manage my feelings in a much better way.
Feeling discomfort is something everyone face at some point of time . Your suggestions are so helpful in this case . It will take time but with time this will be okay .
Great content. It is important to know all this for mental and emotional well being. Understanding ans respecting feelings is one of the most important step. Thank you for such amazing posts.
I think managing our feelings is tied up with with how we set our mindset. With a poor mindset, it’s very easy to fall into thinking negatively in everything despite all the great things happening around you.
All feelings play an important role for us, So when comfort is important so is discomfort. The main thing is how we handle it and overcome the feeling. No one is perfect but it’s about accepting our own flaws and managing them. Nice post.
Yes, no one is perfect and we all need to learn. We all face Emotional discomfort. Great point you have mentioned and for me gratitude help me overall to cope up with
Getting feelings and emotions is very common but how we handle them is the most important thing. It is necessary to have a balanced mental health
Its a great article. Its really important to manage our feeling of discomfort and the first step towards it is to know the reason behind discomfort. A great read indeed
Yes no one is perfect in this world… And it’s very difficult to control your feelings. This is such a great article to manage your feelings 👏👏👍👍
Feeling low or feelings that bring discomfort needs to be acceptance. Many times person ignore it and then no solution can be applied . Liked the resolutions you have mentioned in the post to overcome the feeling.