Friendship has its benefits that can’t be expected in any other relationship. The concept of benefits in friendship has been popular for centuries but this term of Friendship with benefits got a new meaning and became popular in 2011 with the release of a Hollywood movie, Friends With Benefits.
Friends with benefits, The Movie
The movie friends with benefits was directed by Will Gluck. It was released in 2011, Starring Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis as lead characters.
The movie shows how a man and a woman decide to have sex with each other but commit to never attach any emotional strings to their relationship. It all starts with just sex and slowly they become friends who share one common benefit, sex. (that’s how the movie gets its name) And later they realize that they are head over heels in love with each other. How do they realize their love for each other? What happens next? Well, to break the suspense I would suggest you watch this super romantic movie on Netflix.
But for now, let’s hit reality and allow me to share What friendship with benefits actually means? What do people who have a friendship with benefits, do together?
True friendship is always benefitting. But when you talk about friendship with benefits, it usually indicates sexual benefits between two friends. But friendship with benefits is not like one-night stands that last for just a night. The relationship here focuses on two adults who know each other but don’t want any relationship tag to be attached.
Such relationships are not just about dating or fancy dinners or mushy talks. Friendship here only sticks to sexual pleasures.
However, I feel friendship is just not about sexual benefits rather true friendship is far beyond just sex.
For example, remember that friend who always stands by you. The friend who never fails to motivate you when you feel nothing is going right in your life. Such friends bring mental peace to your life and are definitely a great example of friendship with benefits.
True Friendship is not just about physical benefits, it is about mental peace too.
Can friendship with benefits lead to love?
True Friendship gives us a feeling of fulfillment. When two people start being the reason for each other’s happiness, it often leads to love.
And why not?
We are humans and no matter how much we deny it, we cannot ignore our feelings. When I say that, I hope you understand that I mean that humping and jumping with the same person over and over again in bed, cannot last without emotions.
When a couple starts having physical and mental compatibility, they can get attracted to each other and fall in love. Friendship can develop a love life that is built on understanding and respect for each other.
Can you really have a friendship with benefits relationship in India?
Friendship and enjoying its benefits have been common in abroad but not in India. I mean, a couple that decides to become sex partners without getting married is still a very big deal in India.
Honestly, if I go and tell my mom that I am in a sexual relationship with a guy without any strings attached, she would probably kill me.
Hahaha. Fact of life you see.
Having said that let me also tell you that this concept is slowly getting popular in India. Though such relationships are secretive and hidden because of the social taboos that they bring with them.
Not just friendship with benefits, any kind of sexual relationship with anyone before marriage is still considered a big deal in India.
Funny right!? With the population increasing day by day in India, sex still remains a hidden pleasure for all of us.
But if you still dare to bring it out openly, your neighbors or your relatives will probably kill you before your parents.
Boundations of friendship with benefits
Love and friendship do not have any boundations, but when you talk about friendship with benefits, it does mean that you mutually decide to have sex with a person without any boundation to be committed.
In such relationships, I have seen that the couple usually starts with the strict guidelines of just being sex buddies but ends up falling into the trap of being emotionally tangled.
Some common rules of friendship with benefits
Nothing follows without mutual consent
Friendship with benefits is about sex but the thumb rule is that nothing follows without mutual consent. If one of them decides to end the bond or doesn’t agree with the other person’s sexual preferences, they can end the relationship at any time.
Friendship with benefits means date whoever you want.
It is not about cheating your partner or lying to your partner. The relationship here just implies being sex partners, so have fun and date whoever you want.
No emotional attachments
When I say that no strings attached when in such relationships, I also mean definitely no emotional attachments. You can’t expect the other person to console you when you feel emotionally broke and you definitely can’t blame them for not being there. The expectations in such relationships just rely on orgasms.
Note: Please note that the friendship that you and your best friend share is also benefitting you but in an absolutely different way.
Conclusion: Friendship is always beneficial when it gives you the pleasure of happiness, through orgasms or emotional support.
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I agree this concept can not be accepted in India as our roots and tradition believe in staying together for forever and help each other in irrespective of circumstances. I did not watch the movie you have mentioned here but love the way you have interpret it with real life situations.
This concept is quite hard to be accepted in India. And as you said, even if it is accepted , it still remains under covers. I is not seen as decent to even talk about it. Eyebrows are raised, eyes are rolled when anyone ask openly about live-in relationship. But it boils down to someone’s preference.
This concept is difficult to be accepted in India because of the culture. I know for sure that live-in relationships have started in India in the past few years but is talked badly upon. Getting rental houses for such couples is also difficult.
Live in relationship is now slowly making it presence felt in India. I came across such a couple in my society and in my lane. I am not against of this thought process till the time both couples are established and capable of taking own decision. But these days doing nothing and enjoying live together on parents money is something I cant support at any cost.
You have really taken the bull by the horns. Not many in India would discuss this “no strings attached” relationship though they do go through it. I have seen the movie also. And yes, good friends last!
This is a topic that not everyone would talk about. This is revolutionary. Hats off to you for bring some normalcy to the concept
Friendship with benefits its benefits, but as a concept, it is a long way from being accepted in our Indian society. It exists in pockets but as you have mentioned it is a trend that still does not have the sanction of Indian society at large.
You have chosen a topic, hardly spoken about in India. I have heard about the movie, but have not watched. This concept is not easy to be accepted by Indian society.
Thank you for talking about this. Live in relationship are now becoming normal at many places but not much in India.
First of all it takes great courage to talk about this.. I’m not sure if people still casually accept livin relationships. I cannot even think of when people would start seeing this like in abroad
Friendship with benefits its benefits. I have heard about the movie, but have not watched. This concept is not easy to be accepted by Indian society.
I truly believe friendship is a great stepping stone to a long term relationship/ marriage. It is where one can truly learn who another person is without pretending or showing just the good stuff of themselves to impress the other.
Nice and bold concept for most of the Indians to except. But frankly I like the way you have penned down this topic.