The way we talk, the way we walk together shows our confident self that reflects in our personality. Building a strong and vibrant personality can be developed. It is something that is achievable for all of us, we just need to follow a few tips and tricks. But before I jump to the tips and tricks of personality development, let me first answer some of the most commonly asked questions about personality development.
What is personality development?
People often go to grooming sessions where experts help them to develop their personalities. That surely helps. Looking good is important to have an attractive personality but it is not the only aspect that is responsible for a great personality.
What is the importance of personality development?
Have you ever noticed that some people have such a Charismatic personality that when they enter a room all eyes are on them? Everyone wants to sit next to them, everyone wants to talk to them. Their personality creates a very attractive vibe.
You obviously want to be that person, who everyone loves and is praising about…Right!?
And obviously to be that person you need to develop a great personality.
Developing an attractive personality is not just dependent on one or two traits. It is all dependent on our confidence levels and our habits too.
People often want to know what are the different types of personality development. So here I share, Some important aspects that define a person’s personality are:
- Public speaking skills : the way we speak publicly reflects how confident we are. No matter where you are and how many people are watching you, if you can speak confidently publically then you surely will be able to attract more and more people with your personality.
- Behaviour : Your behaviour shows who you actually are. If you wear clean clothes but you lack the manners to speak to people around you, then you really can’t attract people around you.
- Anger management : Getting upset about something or feeling angry is normal. Happens with all of us.But it is important to control our anger. Make sure that you don’t do anything in anger that can’t be mended.
For example, imagine you are at a party.
Looking the best you can and trying to make maximum sense with the words that you speak but someone accidentally spills water on your clothes, how do you react? If you decide to excuse yourself, go to the restroom and clean yourself up, you will be said to be having a calm and respectful personality. But instead, if you decide to shout at the person on the top of your voice then be sure that no one is going to get attracted by how you look. You will be judged upon the way you reacted in anger. Actions speak louder than voice.
Physical fitness: The way you look and carry yourself is the first thing that people will notice about your personality. So make sure that you keep yourself physically fit and sit and stand in proper postures. Slouchy postures are never attractive. Keep your head high, back straight, and make eye contact when you talk.
- Food habit : As the saying goes, a gentleman always knows how to hold his spoons right. Having good dining habits surely plays a significant role in your personality development. Making sound while eating or eating with your mouth open are a strict no no.
- Social circle : your social circle surely defines who you are. Even when you are around strangers. The way you present yourself and build relationships, speaks volumes about your personality.
In simple words, personality development is all about your characteristics, your habits, and your daily activities.
Sometimes people have all the traits of a great personality but still lack to make an impression with strangers. That is because some people find it difficult to break the ice. It is difficult for them to start a conversation. Having a conversation also requires a skill set.
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For those struggling with the same issue, I would like to share 5 major Habits that build up a strong personality while talking to strangers.
- Conversation Ratio : Being a good listener is the Most attractive personality trait. We all want to be with someone who wants to hear us. So, while talking, be the friend who always listens. Trust me, people who listen have a magnetic force.
Keep a 75%-25 % ratio. When you keep the conversation about them, people automatically feel attracted to you.
- Ice breaker jokes: No one likes to talk to anyone who always keeps a straight face on. Haven’t you noticed how the smiling faces always become the highlight of the party. (This doesn’t mean that you start making fun of others) Learning to laugh comfortably on yourself shows how comfortable you are in your own skin. This immediately attracts people because they can see the more human side of you which is obviously more relatable.
- Name card: Your name is your identity. So while having a conversation if you use their name, it has a powerful impact.
When you casually use their name in the conversation, you gain all their attention. Please note here that overdoing it is also not cool and fumbling or using the wrong name is a strict no-no.
- Roots of interest: Have you ever been around someone whose talks can bore you to death? I am sure the name of your aunts and uncles is flying in your heads. Haha. A person with a good personality is one who can talk about a wide range of topics. The key to do so is to develop passion and interest in different topics while being sensitive towards others.
Talk about what your audience wants to hear.
5. The Art of Saying “NO”: This is something I too have struggled with. With my experience, I have learnt that saying “no” is also an art. The key rule is to say no with a smile. Not in a way where no one takes you seriously, but in a way where you look confident, firm, and polite at the same time.
For example, you can say :
- Sorry , I won’t be able to make it today.
- No thanks, I don’t think I need this today.( To pushy sales man.)
- Thank you but I think I will give it a miss today.
- I am afraid I have another commitment.
Also, consider reading this remarkable book on habit formation.
Conclusion: Personality development is an art that requires concentration and basic manners. Your personality speaks volumes about the kind of person you are.
Anger management is truly an art. It needs a lot of work, as I have done this. Being sensitive in publc also leads to problems. We need to learn the art of maintaining decorum and ignoring many things around us.
You just nailed it and shared the best tips for personality development which we all know but somehow miss it when we need to work on personality development in reality.
It is very important to learn how to say no in a polite way. These points are very important to follow.
Yes I agree personality development is a combination our characteristics, your habits, and your daily activities. you have explained each points enhancing personality development so well in this post. I am glad you have also talked about anger management here. many people are good in other skills but forget to pay attention on this one.
Thank you talking about this. There are many who don’t understand its relevance. These are some great tips. Loved the way you expressed it. Super easy to understand and learn. Great work.
Liked the 75:25 principle and personality development is very important. Your tips are really helpful.
How beautifully you have written about this post. I agree there should be a different way to say ‘ no ‘ to others.
Nice.. I have shared this one of my friend who has the issue of public speaking. Good post indeed.
Personality development is super important in every field. Beautiful information given in the post to improve myself. Thank you for sharing.
What a great article! Personality development is really a must as it is where we become mindful of our own growth. It is natural on humans to be nosey of our neighbours. We’re just born that way but having the ability to see ourselves, our mistakes and our growth is something else.